Yes, Secret's new buddy will be a male. Please notice that I said we will make him a steer. That means he will be neutered. And we really will turn him into hamburger, meat loaf, and other good stuff at some time after Secret has a baby. Secret won't mind at that point. She'll have her baby for company.
No, we won't have a problem eating an animal we've raised. We've done it many times.
Just call me Hard-hearted Mosie.